The Lies of Rejection

The Lies of Rejection

I originally wrote this for a friend’s blog. I am reposting here, because today I received my first rejection from a publisher for my Bible study called The Jewels of Hebrews.

There was a post going around on Facebook which stated, “Don’t believe everything you think.” Its truth crashed head on into my thoughts of rejection.

Throughout most of my life it felt as though others rejected me. It’s one of those feelings which is so easy to believe, like fear. We can spend our entire existence thinking people are talking about us, believing no one values us, even feeling sure people don’t want us around.

I can feel excluded when I see my friends on Facebook sharing pictures of themselves having a great time together, wondering why they didn’t invite me. When people don’t attend my Bible study classes, I assume it is because of me. When people won’t buy my book, it looks, feels, and smells like… rejection.

I am not ignoring the fact people have distanced or removed themselves from my life. It hurt when a boyfriend broke up with me because I wasn’t right for him, and when friends thought I was a “Jesus freak”, or a woman didn’t want to be friends any longer.

Even though people have rejected me doesn’t mean I am rejected.

Rejection can become a stronghold in our Christian walk. It is the lie which keeps us captive by Satan, who tells us we are not worthy, wanted, or appreciated.

One night in a dream, I saw myself with different people, in a church, at a restaurant, and in a friend’s home. I saw myself looking down at the ground not making eye contact with anyone, feeling alone, and despised. Everywhere I went people treated me the way I saw myself. I woke up knowing I needed to stop believing the lie that no one wanted me around. If I kept acting rejected not only did I believe it but soon everyone else would as well.

Victory came when I repented for believing the lie that I am rejected. I asked God to replace that lie with His truth.

Psalm 94:14 (ESV) says, “For the LORD will not reject His people; He will never forsake His inheritance.”

We are His inheritance.

God has not rejected us—quite the opposite, in fact. He faced the ultimate rejection by His death so we can live as adopted sons and daughters.

We can turn the tables on Satan by rejecting him and his lies and forgiving those who rejected us. Forgiveness is a weapon for victory. It removes the power of the evil one and frees us from the captivity of unforgiveness. It will allow healing.

 One of the greatest gifts we have is being able to spend time with the Lord. He strengthens us through our relationship with Him. He affirms us and shows us love and patience while healing the hurts of our hearts.

Another source of truth for victorious living is God’s Word. Ephesians 1:4 tells us He chose us before He created the world and Ephesians 2:4 tells us God loves us with a great love.

I love Zephaniah 3:17 (ESV). Let your heart hear God’s love:

“The Lord your God is in your midst,

    a Mighty One Who will save;

He will rejoice over you with gladness;

    He will quiet you by His love;

He will exult over you with loud singing.

Scripture memorization means we always have access to the truth even when we don’t have our Bibles with us. Satan cannot steal what is in our hearts. We can repeat verses when the temptation to believe a lie assails us.

Prayer is a mighty weapon for continuous victory over rejection. Be honest with the Lord. We can tell Him the emotions of our hearts and our desire to believe all He says. He wants us to tell Him about our hurts and disappointments. We can approach His throne confidently and we will receive mercy and find grace when we need it (Hebrews 4:16). Continuous conversations with our Father gives us hope and the power to stand even when we feel rejected.

How have you conquered the feelings of rejection?

A Feast of Words and a Free book

A Feast of Words and a Free book

How do you feed your soul?

I just returned from a Christian writers conference in the Blue Ridge Mountains of North Carolina. It was an exhausting, yet exhilarating five days. This conference was a time for making new friends and catching up with old ones.

But, it also fed me.

This conference fed me spiritually, and it fueled my creativity. It inspired and challenged my writing.

I also realized How. Much. I. Don’t. Know.

Last year at this conference, I met a family whom I now deeply appreciate. They are the Kauffmans. Rick, Beebe, and their daughter Katy have inspired many people besides me. They are the founders of Refresh, an online Bible study magazine, and Lighthouse Bible Studies.

Beebe and Katy taught me a lot about writing devotionals for Refresh. Since meeting them, they published two of my devotionals in Refresh and gave me the courage to write for CBN.com and the Charisma online magazine.

I recently contributed to their book Feed Your Soul with the Word of God.

This book is a feast of thirty short Bible studies written by twenty-six contributors; most of whom I know. You will love their stories and insights into Scripture.

Each short Bible study has a story, application, 4 to 5 questions, and a prayer. Easy peasy. You can get one in before work.

I have two short Bible studies in this book. The first one is How to Withstand the Predator and is about my dog and the deer she chased from my yard. Using this story and Scripture, I give you steps to withstand Satan’s schemes and understand Spiritual warfare.

My other short Bible study in this compilation is Psalm 18 — Retold. Psalm 18 is my favorite Psalm and I hope it will be yours after reading my version.

There are many other topics and scriptures used by great writers of this book to keep you engaged.

It is available on June 20th from Amazon.

But!

You can get your copy early by commenting on this post and sharing it. I will choose one random person to win a copy of Feed Your Soul with the Word of God.

We want everyone to hear about this study, so sharing it will improve the chance of reaching more people with the Good News Bible study give us.

Remember, to win a copy,  first comment on this blog, then share it with your friends and family.

Thank you! I will contact the winner to get your address.

 

 

 

Does Anyone Read the Bible anymore?

Does Anyone Read the Bible anymore?

I admit at times I am too passionate about Bible study.

The last thing I want to do is turn people off towards opening their Bibles. But, I see a trend in churches, (especially those that are not Southern Baptist; I am not Southern Baptist but they are known for their deep love of Bible study.) there seem to be more book clubs than Bible studies. Meaning, they get together and read a lot of books Christians write on what the Bible says instead of reading the Bible together.

I love to read and read many of these same books on my own time. I feel when we get together in the church, we should be reading the Bible more than any other book.

Almost twenty- years ago, the Lord called me to be a Bible teacher.

I devoured every Bible study I could get my hands on to understand God’s Word better. One year for my birthday, my husband bought me Bible software to make my research easier. I loved it. It is my third program (Logos 7) which I use all the time.

God made me for research. He made me to study and learn and to teach anyone who listens for more than a minute.

I love to teach, really I do.

My husband is often my unwilling student.

Everything I learn, he learns…

If he doesn’t have time, then my kids have to listen. And I will gladly follow them around so they don’t have to sit and hear me out.

But, back to the Bible.

I think the church really wants to make it easy for everyone. But, sometimes, by putting scripture on a power point it can cause some people to become lazy. Hebrews 5:11-14  warns us about becoming lazy or dull of hearing. We don’t need to take our Bibles to a Sunday morning service anymore.

If we don’t open our Bibles at church, why should we open them at home?

 I have been teaching a study on the Parables of Jesus. The only book we use is the Bible. Yet, there are those who do not bring their Bibles to a Bible study.

I know churches where you could never take your Bible and it would not matter. We are becoming Bible illiterate and it saddens me.

 Our lack of biblical knowledge, both in our heads and hearts is clear by the state of our country, church, and of most families.

We need the Holy Spirit to teach us God’s Word, but we have to open the Book, first.

I love God’s Word.

I didn’t necessarily set out to become a Bible teacher. One of my pet peeves is when people take scripture out of context to fit their worldview. It’s not even about memorization; it’s about living and breathing God’s letter to you.


I love getting the mail to see what’s there for me.  I am seriously like a child when I get a package. If someone else in my family gets a package, I want to know what’s in it.

Whenever I get a real card or letter in the mail—not an email or e-card, but the real paper kind—I love to read and reread it. Someone took the time to sit down and write these words for me. I leave it on my table and pick it up a couple of times a day for about a week just to read it again.

That’s how I see the Scriptures.

God spent many years through many of His obedient followers to write me His eternal Words. Words to comfort me, teach me, love me, and save me.

There are Words that show me what I cannot see with my eyes—His Son.
Many people have died to print these Words, take them to other countries, and teach them. We have it so good.

How many Bibles do you have in your house? How many do you read?

 God doesn’t love us any less for not being in His Word. But, He wrote it for you. Ask Him to reveal Himself through the pages of His Word. He will do it!

 Go to Bible studies; get the Book, not an electronic version. Take notes, write in the margins, and highlight the verses you love.

Wear. Your. Bible. OUT! That’s why He gave it to us.

Pray, too. A lot.

This is not condemnation.

I hope this encourages you and sparks a new interest in God’s Word. If you have questions ask me. I will do my best to give you an answer. If I don’t know it, I will find someone who does.

Thanks for listening! I promise I will not follow you around. 🙂

All Scripture is God-breathed and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete and equipped for every good work. 

2 Timothy 3:16-17 ESV

Seeking Him

Seeking Him

If you are anything like me, you set goals and make plans for the new year.

Among those plans is a writing project I want to finish early this year,  a vacation for later in the year, and because we have goats, I start planning for kids (babies) as well!

The Lord has plans for us too. He has promises and dreams to fulfill in us and through us. His plans are not like ours. They are carefully laid out to work towards our future and to give us hope. While the verses in Jeremiah are full of promises, there are several requirements that the Lord has of us.

The first one is to call on Him, the second is to come to Him, and the third is to pray to Him. He wants us to come to Him, and He wants us to pray. I don’t believe this kind of praying is while we stand in line somewhere or while fixing dinner or reading or watching TV. (There’s nothing wrong with any of this). The type of praying He refers to in this verse is coming to Him whether on your knees or in a quiet place. He wants our full attention on Him.

Then He promises to hear you! The God of Heaven and Earth promises to listen to you.

This is not the type of hearing we do…He does not listen to us the way we “listen” to others when we are on the internet or Facebook, or sitting on a pew Sunday morning. The kind of hearing God does means He will do something about what He hears.

Lastly, God wants us to SEEK Him!

Seeking Him is looking for Him in every situation, and seeking His will and His face. Seeking Him is pursuing Him like you pursue someone you really want to get to know or the way you might pursue a job or career.

He wants us to seek Him with our whole heart as well. Not half-hearted or until we get what we desire, but seek Him with all you have like your life depends on it.

Because it does, really.

The last promise is amazing. He promises us that when we seek Him with our whole heart HE WILL BE FOUND.

You will find God.

He is not hiding from you because He wants to be known.

Who doesn’t want to be known? We all want people to know us, to understand us, and to see our gifts or talents. That’s why shows like The Voice and American Idol are so popular. People seek to be known for who they are and what they can do.

God wants you to know who He is and what He can do, but mostly how much He cares for you.

Join me this new year in seeking God with your whole heart.

I can promise you, you will find Him.